How to be more social and confident? – as an introvert

If you want to be a more social person, then most probably you are carrying this question, ‘How to be more social?’ in your mind. 

In order to be more social, you need to make some changes by taking some extra steps. You can never expect any change by remaining in the same state. 

There was a time in my early age, when I suffered to be social, I was too introverted and shy to talk to others and mingle, but I learnt the ways to be more social and now I can stand before hundreds of people and deliver my words without struggle. 

What I simply mean that if I can learn to be more social and confident then you can too. You just need to learn some important tips.

You can be more social and confident by: Encouraging yourself to talk to others, Starting the conversation with appreciation, Asking positive and engaging questions, Carrying cheerful spirit, Being kind and helpful, Being respectful to others, Always uplifting others, Being a good listener, Giving small parties, Getting involved with others, Not blaming others, Being open minded by accepting others with differences.

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12 Top Tips to be more social and confident: as an introvert

1. Encourage yourself to talk to others
2. Start the conversation with appreciation 
3. Ask positive and engaging questions
4. Carry cheerful spirit
5. Be kind, humble and helpful
6. Be respectful to others
7. Always uplift others
8. Be a good listener
9. Give small parties
10. Get involved with others
11. Do not blame others
12. Be open minded by accepting others

1. Encourage yourself to talk to others

To be more social, the first step that you need to take is that you have to encourage yourself to talk to others, as talking with others is an essential part of verbal communication.

In other words, in order to be social, you need to communicate and in order to communicate well, you need to talk.

I know sometimes it becomes too difficult to talk with others or you may have no words to speak. But there are some ways you can start a talk or engaging conversation. 

2. Start the conversation with appreciation

Does not matter how bad a person is, but still everyone likes to be appreciated. And the fact is that everyone has something to be appreciated, we just need to find that out. Why it is difficult to find that because most people are lovers of criticism rather than appreciation. 

It is said that even you can appreciate a bad dog for his strong teeth. 

Once you find the point of appreciation, now you can begin the conversation through that word of appreciation. 

As an example, you can tell that I actually like the way you maintain your dressing or hair etc. Can you give me some suggestions on this?

You will find that even a small piece of appreciation will light up the face of the audience and make them happy to engage with you in a conversation. 

There was a time, I used to think how shall I start talking with the person in front of me, and I found that this tactic is just a great way to begin to connect with others.

3. Ask positive and engaging questions

Another great way to start a conversation and connect with others to be more social is asking a positive and engaging question. 

Most people like to answer, so when you hook the person next to you with a positive and engaging question, there is a huge chance that the audience will answer you and you can successfully connect with that person. 

I personally use this tactic a lot to connect with a stranger, new friend or relative. 

An example can be, your watch is just awesome, can you tell me where did you buy it from? 

4. Carry cheerful spirit

Happy and cheerful person is loved by everyone, no one likes to socialise with a person carrying a frown face with a bad mood. 

You must know that a cheerful and smiling face creates a positive energy and happiness is also contagious. A happy person makes others happy. 

Having a cheerful spirit will help you to be more social, as you discharge the positive energy. Do not show your bad mood to others, it will steal others joy and present you as an unattractive and dull person. 

5. Be kind, humble and helpful

Everyone individually desires kind, humble and helpful attitudes from others. So, in order to be more social you must have these attitudes to be impressive and attractive to others. 

Develop these beautiful characteristics and you will find people are liking you, and when people like you, they will try to get close to you, as a result you will be connected to them easily.

There is real power in kindness, humbleness and helpful spirit to be more social and present yourself confidently as people get a positive and moral image of you.

6. Be respectful to others

It is said that, “Do to others, as you want others to do to you” – by Jesus Christ. 

We all want to be respectful, so when you want to be respected then you should know that others too want to be respected. 

Behaving with others respectfully, makes you a loving person to others. As respecting others takes you closer to others to be more social, having a disrespectful attitude can cause you to be hated by others and takes you away from the people. 

7. Always uplift others

When was the last time, someone uplifted you in some way or you uplifted someone. I still remember the people who have contributed to uplift me.

When you uplift others, you create a powerful impression on others which influence that person to be social with you. 

8. Be a good listener

Listening is a great skill that helps you to connect to people. People not only like to listen but also want others to listen to them. Many times, people like to share their thoughts, ideas or emotional feelings with others, and desire you to listen carefully and attentively. 

When you listen to others, it shows you value that person, and this giving value to others creates a better environment to be social with others. 

9. Give small parties

Sharing with others or offering some small parties to others can also help you to be connected to others and become more social. 

Giving shows caring and love, and this is a very powerful tool for being social. So, be generous in sharing with others and you will find as a result you are becoming a more social person, and as you become more social your level of confidence also will grow eventually. 

10. Get involved with others

Think how effective it will be in being social, when you involve in some activities with others rather than just sitting and watching. 

Many people have a bad habit of just sitting and watching, but getting up and being involved will present a better attitude and will enhance your social capability. 

So, next time, when you see that you can get involved in some activity and help others then don’t miss that opportunity to grab and become more social with others. 

11. Do not blame others

It is human tendency to blame others to get rid of some problems, but do you know that this is a serious negative characteristic to being a social person. As you blame others, it takes you away from them and creates a distance between both. 

The best way to handle the problem is, accepting the mistake and counting yourself responsible rather than blaming others to escape as an excuse. 

12. Be open minded by accepting others

Every person is different in thinking process, way of living or in cultural practices, so judging others with our standard may develop a barrier between both. 

So, learning to accept others and behaving well makes you a more social person to connect with others and establish a good relationship. 

As you practice the tips provided above, they will help you to be more social and confident, even if you are an introvert.

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